Female sexual desire and pleasure are closely linked. Indeed, pleasure rarely exists without sexual desire, but the reverse may well be true. To avoid swimming in desire for many months or even years without ever achieving pleasure, there are several little tips that will be interesting to help you make the most of your sex life. Of course, depending on the person, the tips will have to be adapted, but in any case, they apply to all the relationships you may have with other people.
Talk about your fantasies
If there is one thing that can help you boost your desire but also the pleasure you will feel during your sexual intercourse, it is talking about your fantasies with your partner. It is not necessarily a question of realizing them, but while you are having sex, do not hesitate to communicate about any fantasies you may have, this can have a very important psychological impact and give you lots of fun and excitement. Once again, do not hesitate to communicate with your partner in order to become aware of the fact that some of your fantasies may possibly bother him or her and vice versa, it is not a question of being uncomfortable but really to have fun with two or more.
Communicate with your partner about what you like
If you think you can get even more pleasure from having sex with another person, don't hesitate to com-muni-cate! Your partner can't guess what makes you cum the most if you don't simply tell him what he needs to do to give pleasure. This will be even more true if you are silent during sex, he / she will not be able to analyze what could more or less make you tremble with pleasure. Communicate, tell him what you like or what you don't like, and you will see that over time, you will take more and more pleasure during your relationships with others.
Remember that sex is not just about penetration
Whether in pornographic culture or in popular culture, most of the time, sexual intercourse must necessarily contain a moment of penetration. However, sexual intercourse does not necessarily have to go through this and you can very well have a completely fulfilled sex life without ever tasting penetration. This can be due to different reasons, for example if you suffer from vaginismus, if the size of your partner's penis is not suitable to give you pleasure, (it does not matter, there are many alternatives to have intercourse with someone without going through penetration) or if it does not give you pleasant sensations. The fact of privileging penetration during sexual intercourse and in particular linked to the very hetero-normative vision that we have of sexuality. However, it is important to go beyond all this to see that what we are shown to foreplay in the usual way is in fact an integral part of sexuality. Whenever you perform oral sex, or use your fingers to masturbate your partner, that is sexual intercourse.
There are no rules on this subject, the main thing is that you take pleasure in it, that your partner or partners take pleasure in it and that all of this is practiced with the most total consent. However, it is important to go beyond all this to see that what we are shown to foreplay in the usual way is in fact an integral part of sexuality. Whenever you perform oral sex, or use your fingers to masturbate your partner, that is sexual intercourse. There are no rules on this subject, the main thing is that you take pleasure in it, that your partner or partners take pleasure in it and that all of this is practiced with the most total consent. However, it is important to go beyond all this to see that what we are shown to foreplay in the usual way is in fact an integral part of sexuality. Whenever you perform oral sex, or use your fingers to masturbate your partner, that is sexual intercourse. There are no rules on this subject, the main thing is that you take pleasure in it, that your partner or partners take pleasure in it and that all of this is practiced with the most total consent.
A sexual intercourse that does not end after the male orgasm
Again, habits die hard (unlike male sex after orgasm in most cases). Very often, we consider that a sexual relationship ends from the moment a male partner will have ejaculated, as if a sexual act had to go through penetration or male orgasm. We forget that it is more complicated for a woman to have an orgasm and to take pleasure, let's say that it takes longer than for a man and requires a little more dexterity. Again, let's not generalize, it's quite possible that in a heterosexual couple, a man has more trouble climaxing than a woman. However, this is not the norm. On the other hand, we can note that very often, once a man has had an orgasm and therefore ejaculated, he will find it much more difficult to feel desire and therefore to provide pleasure to his partner. Fortunately, a woman can give pleasure to herself, whether with her fingers or with toys. It is therefore essential to establish good communication within the couple so that you feel legitimate when you use your own fingers or even sex toys in order to reach orgasm on your return if your partner's came before yours.