After a few years of married life, you may feel the need to discover new things and spice up your sexual relations. If this is what you are looking for, there is a very effective way: the sex toy. Only, it is not because you want to test a sex toy that your partner will agree with it. In this case, how to bring a sex toy into your life as a couple without rushing your partner? Are there techniques to make him understand, gently, how beneficial the sex toy can be?
Leave aside the surprise effect
You may be thinking that by surprising your partner, he will be delighted to try a sex toy. However, this may have the opposite effect. Indeed, imagine that you are in the middle of a hug and that, suddenly, you take your sex toy out of the drawer and brandish it in front of your partner. What reaction will he (or will she) have? Whether you are a man or a woman, the effect of surprise, on this point, will be very badly accepted. Your partner will think that he (she) is not doing the trick and that you need more, because he (she) is not enough for your taste.
Communication is key
Want to try a sex toy on your next getaway? In this case, talk to your partner. Explain to him the reasons that lead you to want to bring a sex toy into your life as a couple. Make her understand that it's okay to try this kind of sex toy and highlight the benefits that a sex toy can bring to both of your sex lives. The more you communicate on the subject, the more your partner will be inclined to accept it.
What if we don't dare to talk about it?
Are you shy and do not dare to talk about sextoys directly with your partner? Don't worry, this is completely normal. If you are in this situation, then why not bet on subtlety? You can, for example, leave a catalog of sex toys dedicated to couples on the coffee table or put the remote control of a vibrator on the bed, along with the instructions for use. In this way, your partner will easily understand your intentions, without you having to tell him.
To finish
As you will have understood, it can be very easy to bring a sex toy into your life as a couple, without rushing your partner. You just have to go about it the right way. The surprise effect is to be avoided under penalty of finding yourself with an incredulous, even angry partner. In any case, think carefully about how you are going to go about convincing your partner, but be careful, do not force him (her) especially if he (she) does not agree with the use of a sex toy. Go gradually and gently.
