BDSM is often equated with a person whipping another, tied up, in a dark room. BDSM is a much more complex and interesting universe, and brings together several currents of erotic thought...
What does BDSM mean?
BDSM is not easy to define. To understand what BDSM means and how to do or practice BDSM, we can start by specifying that it concerns a relationship between two or more people, in which there is at least one who dominates the others, and at least one who is dominated . . This does not define a type of sexual intercourse, because BDSM is much broader than simple sex, even if it very often affects erotic activities... It can concern for example only:
- humiliation such as urophilia ( urinating on your submissive ), urolagnia or even ondinism
- masochism such as the fantasy of being stepped on by your mistress in stiletto heels, or of being beaten on the buttocks with a riding crop
- sadism, such as taking pleasure in inflicting punishment on his dominated , using pliers to pull the labia minora, or tying his hands from behind with a rope connected to an anal hook inserted into his anus for example !
BDSM is practiced all over the world. In Japan, it is even considered an art with a greater emphasis on aesthetics, and is called kinbaku . There are many BDSM practices, we can't name them all, we would have to write a book!
An emblematic figure of BDSM is the Marquis de Sade , an 18th century writer , whose writings went beyond sadistic relationships (rape, murder, torture). The word sadism was created 20 years after his death and is used all over the world.
We offer you here a little topo giving the basics of the universe of Bondage Domination Sadomasochism 🔞
You guys are BDSM
BDSM may be the solution you've always been looking for, to fulfill your most perverse fantasies . Fantasies that may seem strange, twisted, even unhealthy to ordinary mortals. Obviously, the general public does not know the joys and pleasures of being bound, whipped, hooked, humiliated, even tortured, and playing the obedient submissive to a dominant partner . Conversely, you can find your happiness by being the master or the mistress.
The film "Fifty Shades of Grey", then the series "Vikings" introduced millions of people to a part of the BDSM universe: the best known practices such as whipping , handcuffing , spanking ... which has made it possible to convert the most curious towards an uninhibited sexuality, where the partners can perfectly reverse roles at each session for a sex life that is more lively, fulfilled and full of eroticism.
BDSM is not only based on barbaric practices and humiliating punishments . It has nothing to do with what you can see in porn movies. Before embarking on these particular sexual relations, determine with your submissive (submissive?) or your master (mistress?) a security code. If this word is uttered, it is because the pain/pleasure balance is shifting to the wrong side, and the dominant needs to take a break. Before learning more about the different BDSM sexual practices, know that the submissive must be consenting. Everything happens with respect for others.
BDSM is such a vast world, with so many possibilities, that it will be impossible for us to be exhaustive on the subject. We can instead define what it is based on. What does BDSM mean? We are going to give you an example of a fantasy for each of the pillars of the BDSM world.
Comics like Bondage – Discipline
To understand what BDSM means, we must define the initials that define it. Contrary to appearances, BDSM is not the acronym of 4 letters, but of the 3 elements: BD, DS and SM. Logically, let's start with comics.
Bondage is a very old practice, born in Japan and inspired by the torture inflicted by bondage by the Japanese army. Bondage today consists of immobilizing your subject with constraint accessories . There are many. This can be chains, straps, handcuffs, a straightjacket, even a metal cage or a spreader bar for the most enthusiastic. Or even with clothes such as latex suits or tank tops. The idea is to deprive the submissive of one or more of their senses. It can be the sight with a mask, the voice with a gag… There are endless possibilities, all parts of the body can be attached (follow my gaze…)!
DS like Domination – Submission
We are here in the balance of power between the mistress (called domina) and her submissive. The principle is to humiliate, to have control of the situation. Psychological control is the most important aspect here. The dominant person must know how to be respected, and punish the submissive who does not obey him. The dominant has the power, a total domination over his submissive or his submissive in order to do with it what he wants.
A mistress may for example perform fellatio on her tied submissive , bringing him to extreme excitement, on the verge of orgasm several times, torturing him to the edge of ejaculation. The submissive must then ask nicely for permission to cum…
Here too, there are dozens of different sex toys. We all know the chastity cage to enclose the penis, or the anal hook . There are also animal games, most often dogs, foxes, cats or rabbits. Submissives love to be trained and treated like animals...
SM like Sado – Masochism
The sadomaso universe is once again a question of the dominant-dominated relationship. The sadist takes sexual pleasure in making the submissive suffer. While the masochist takes pleasure and seeks to suffer under the blows or torture of the dominant. There are many ranks in the SM. Sadomasochists content themselves with whipping , others go as far as torture of the genitals , drops of hot wax on the nipples, corporal punishment (spanking, whipping), or the electric chair. Despite appearances, these sexual processes are based on mutual respect. Remember that both the sado and the masochist take pleasure in sadomasochistic practices!
How to practice bdsm?
BDSM is most often practiced as a couple at home. The master bedroom may be suitable for this erotic activity, but the immersion will be much better in a quiet room reserved for this purpose . A cellar, a basement or a dark room will be perfect for a better feeling and the establishment of a ritual, especially in the case of sadomasochistic practice . Most of the time, practitioners feel a real passion for BDSM. Thus, over the years, they accumulate and collect accessories of all types (the most noble materials being leather and metal) and all this takes up space over time. This is also why the most seasoned have a room specially dedicated to accomplishing their perversion.
There are libertine clubs open to BDSM, where single people or couples can share sadomaso experiences. Lesser known places are reserved for fetishist or masochist followers : the dungeons . Clients (often wealthy executives) can choose a domina in sexy lingerie who will give them the punishment they deserve. Indeed, some people really need to be attached to let out their emotions and achieve an enjoyment that they cannot obtain otherwise.
To conclude, BDSM is not just a practice made to spice up one's sex life or awaken the desire and libido of a purring couple. It's almost an ideology in its own right that allows many people to flourish and let off steam, in a way. Some have other desires than jogging or the gym! All couples can practice it at home, which allows them to try the experience at a lower cost and discover new sensations! In addition, an American study dating from 2013 indicated that BDSM enthusiasts generally have more fulfilled and peaceful social relationships than others!